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Is he cheating on me?
1. My boy friend and I have been together since last 4 years. During this span I have caught him flirting on phone with some other girls. But it was ages before. Now two days before, I have found a suspecting message again in his mobile which I read in front of him and asked for an explanation. He is now acting innocent. Should I believe him for the sake of our four years relationship where we have been sexual too or should I start ignoring him? Please help me out. It is draining me emotionally.
Anuradha

Foot fetish trouble
2. I had writen you a couple of years back of how my Bhabhi would let me suck and lick her toes. Now I am married and fortunately my wife enjoys my sucking her toes. The problem is that my Bhabhi is staying with us for sometime since my brother has gone abroad. Ever so often she will ask me to press her feet and rub between her toes even when my wife is present. Just the other day she asked me how I liked the scent of her new foot cream and before I could reply she put her toes on my nose and lips and asked me to smell. My wife merely smiled and told my Bhabhi that I enjoyed sucking her toes. I found the whole incident a little embarrassing and don't know how to tackle further. Please advise.
Raj

'Daughter molested by step-son'
1. I just found out my nine-year-old daughter was molested by my 17-year-old step son who had been living with us since he was 11. We believe it lasted at least 3 yrs. I have no faith or trust in my own judgement anymore. I worry constantly about how this will effect her in long term. I don't want her out of my sight, but I know I have to let her feel some normalcy, too. She, her dad and I are seeking counselling and the authorities have been notified, the brother has been arraigned (he confessed and later said he was coerced). He is now living with his biological mother and to make it worse we have to pay child support for him. I don't feel I'll ever be in control of my life again, and am concered about my daughter. She is such a smart, well adjusted child, but I feel this has taken all her sense of security away. I am so angry. Any words of wisdom?
Kay
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Your anger is justified but please do not let it spill over so much as to further disturb your daughter. She is still young and most likely to get over it. Continuous display of irritation, annoyance or anger will not help in putting a very bitter phase of life behind. Your daughter has to move ahead with her life without uncalled for controls. Keep lines of communication open with your child and provide her the unconditional love to which she is entitled to for being your daughter. No more harping on the subject.

Extra-marital affair
2. I am a 25-year-old married Muslim woman married since four years. I never enjoyed sex with my hubby. Recently I got the opportunity to have sex with one of my husband's friend in his absence who is a Hindu and have an uncircumcised penis. We did is on three more occassions where we performed vaginal as well as oral sex and a must admit that it was divine. I just want to know, does it really make a difference to have sex with an uncircumcised penis? Should I continue this relationship, as my husband who is a travelling salesman will never come to know about it?
Zamar Saharif
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: State of penis - circumcised or uncircumcised makes no difference to the sexual pleasure experienced by the female partner. The pleasure depends upon the state of mind of the woman at the time of sexual act. I do not have to answer the second part of your question, as it is a well-known fact that extra-marital sex is prohibited. All adults - males or females have to take their own decisions about it taking into consideration all the associated pitfalls for a few divine moments.