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First time sex
1. My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for a long time now. We decided that it's the right time for us to have sex. When we were about to perform it for the first time, she complained that it hurts and kept on pushing me away from her. After that, she says she is experiencing "sex phobia". So, I was just wondering if there is any medicine or painkiller that would get rid if not reduce her pain during sexual intercourse?
Malek

Can I satisfy my friend's wife?
2. I am a 28-year-old married guy. My friend's wife is interested in sexual relationship with me. Problem is that my friend's penis size is 7.5" and mine is 5". Would I be able to satisfy her and how can I improve my staying power.
Anil

Sex after marriage
1. I had an arranged marriage. And my husband and I are different as persons. I am trying to sort out the differences and still do not feel very comfortable with him. We have not started having sex yet. What I feel is we should be close to each other and become good friends first, feel comfortable and then go ahead for further relations. Is my thinking right? Sometimes I feel guilty that he is not getting what he should get. But he has not complained anything and is still the same to me. Can we wait until we become atleast good friends? Is it wrong?
Sunita
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: It is ok to believe that one has to be friendly and close to each other before having sex. But how long one can wait would depend on the other party, as there is no medically or socially prescribed norm for this purpose. However, legally speaking marriage has to be consummated within three nights of cohabitation otherwise the other party can ask for divorce on the basis of failure of sexual function - impotence in man and frigidity in woman. You should talk to your husband and find out his opinion about it and also decide how long can you dodge proper sex life.

Sex with 12-year-old gal
2. I am a 25-year-old unmarried boy and working abroad. I am staying with a family who has a 12-year-old daughter. She is quite well-built and sexy, and whenever I see her, I feel like having sex with her. Her parents are always away at work and returns only at night time. She remains all alone at home after school. She also gives me positive signals. Often she gives me attention when her parents are not there( she doesn't dare to speak a word when her parents are there). I am sure she will easliy oblige to have sex with me if I ask, but I fear asking her. It seems she also loves me. Will it be a problem for me if I have sex with her.
Mangesh
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Paedophilia (sex with a child) is a crime and punishment is harsh considering its heinous nature. Paedophilia does not go undetected. You touch the girl and she is going to report to her parents. You should stop watching the child of 12 and get a girl friend befitting your age. The twelve years old girl is not giving you positive signals. It is your sex-obsessed mind interpreting her innocent gestures as sexual.