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How to express love?
1. I have a friend who's four years my junior. I know it doesn't seem like a huge gap but for her it seems so. I think I love her but won't really know until we try to get involved romantically! I know she used to have feelings for me. I am not so sure if she still does. How do I ask without risking our friendship and without creating uneasiness in our relationship? Are there any subtle techniques?
Aashish

Past relationship haunting me
2. I am a 22-year-old girl currently in a relationship with a guy. Around four years back, I met a guy who used to give me maths tuition. After few months, he proposed to me and after a thought I accepted, without realising that I am not in love with the person. Initially, our relationship was very strong and I felt that we are made for each other. Later the ideologial differences started to creep in and distances were created. Then I realised that I made a mistake at the very first place by accepting his proposal since I didn't love him. I was overwhelmed by his love for me. Since, we were committed to each other, I tried to convice my family, but to no avail. His family was also not in the favour of our relationship. After all this ruckus, I decided to break off with him, however he kept saying that will always love me and will not marry. After four years, I met a guy who seems to be the person of my dreams and I am totally in love with him. But somehow, I cannot forget this fact that my ex-boyfriend truly loved me and I left him in distress. It was me who broke the relationship and now I have entered a new relationship. Am I too selfish to do this. Please guide me how to get over these guilt pangs
Meera

Unsafe homosexual sex
2. I am a 32-year-old married man. Around fifteen days back, I had a homosexual relation with a friend. I allowed him to masturbate me with his hands. He also put my penis in his mouth for some time, but I ejaculated by his hands only. I did not touch his penis nor did oral. Is there any chance of me having AIDS, in case he is infected? I am enjoying normal sexual relationship with my wife. As I am told that tests have to be carried out after 3 months only and I do not have valid reason not to have sex with my wife, I am asking this question. Please advise.
Alpha
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: The blood test for HIV becomes positive only after 3 months of having picked up the infection but the chances of infecting the other partner start from day one of acquiring the infection in any unprotected sexual encounter. Since you did indulge in oral sex and you have no idea about the HIV status of this partner, it is best to go only for condom-protected sex with your wife. You must get yourself tested after the mandatory 3 months period of the homosexual encounter to know about your own HIV status.

How to improve sex life?
2. I'm married for four years now. I had no knowledge about sex before marriage and it looks like it is affecting me now. Whenever my wife and I have sex, the intercourse lasts for not more than a minute. I cannot hold my ejaculation for more than a minute. My wife has been nice to me so far and every time we have sex, she tells me that she gets an orgasm, within that one minute of intercourse. I feel she is lying as she doesn't want to hurt me. I want to satisfy her sexually. Do you think I have a problem of pre-mature ejaculation? Do I need to see some specialist? Can you give me some tips to enhance my performance on the bed? Please guide.
Suryakiran
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: You sure are having a problem of premature ejaculation and should see a doctor if it is bothering you. Sexual problems are nothing like 'Gupt rog' and persons experiencing them need not feel embarrassed or ashamed to discuss them with doctors. All prescribed medicines should always be taken under medical supervision and for this reason they cannot be prescribed long distance.